Listen to Your Own Voice

bedroom-indoors-light-1616779I’ve always been an avid reader. A lover of all books. Fiction of all kinds. As I grew older, my interests started to shift towards self-help books. Now, before I continue, let me tell you how much I hate that phrase, “self-help.” I much prefer “self-empowerment.” Because let’s be real. Bettering yourself empowers you.

The last ten years of my life has been dedicated to this. I’ve read so many books and learned so much. I learned how to meditate, how to breathe, how to organize my day, how to tap into my intuition, how to be my own boss, how to be more confident, how to be happy, etc.

Just recently, I was reading a new “self-empowerment” book. Throughout the book, there was something bothering me and I couldn’t quite put my finger on it. Finally, I put the book down on the coffee table in my living room. I sat back down on the couch and stared at it. Then, as I searched within myself, suddenly it hit me. I had spent so much time reading what everyone else has done that I never took the time to listen to myself. My inner voice was throwing a temper tantrum worse than that of a two-year old. It really just wanted to be heard.

I realized there were too many voices in my head that were drowning out the sound of my very own.

I love reading and learning from other people. But perhaps it was time for me  to put the books aside and take some to listen to myself for awhile. Sometimes, I’m so busy listening to others that I forget that I’m still here.

Some might say do things this way. Some might say, “do it that way.” It works for some. It might work for you too. But it might not. And we have to be okay with that.

I think its great that we live in a world that offers so many ideas. There are many who write books about their experiences and what they learned and what you can learn from it too so you don’t make the same mistakes. There are people who will give lectures about what they’ve learned. They’ll hold conferences. Even teach an online course about it. And that’s great. We can all learn from each other. As one of my favorite authors Richard Paul Evans put in one of his novels, “We all have something to impart.”

But what you need to understand and remember (me too) is that we were born knowing. We came into this world with our very own mind, heart, conscious and intuition. We were born with the toolkit. But we get so busy listening to everyone else, doing what everyone else does that we forget that we are fully capable of living life by our own rules. We  carry other peoples experiences with us like training wheels, never fully letting go to see if we can do it on our own.

I have since taken a break from the self-empowerment books. And for the first time in a long time, I am living life on my terms. I’m living, learning and loving. You can too. Listen to yourself. Trust yourself. Empower yourself.